Building Strong Families: A Parent Seminar at Donelson Christian Academy Session 4
4.22.19: How To Build A Strong Family
Note: None of what we’ve discussed over the past month matters without this content. You may know all that I’m about to walk your through. I’m going to act as if you know none of this!
I lead the charge in shaping the spiritual temperature of my family.
Let me remind you of our first night:
1. We are at war. (John10:10)
2. “No rules” is the rule.
3. Religion not relationship
4. Tolerance trumps theology.
5. Sin is in.
FAMILY FOUNDATIONAL PRINCIPLES
1. I am the most influential person in my child’s life.
2. My child wants (and needs) an involved parent.
3. I must teach that culture’s cool never trump’s God’s truths.
4. I am a parent, not a pal.
5. I have to be willing to go there!
I often hear many reasons from parents who choose NOT to spend time in the Word with their spouse and/or kids(s), such as:
– “I’m not knowledgeable enough to lead my family spiritually.”
– “I’m not worthy enough to lead my family spiritually.”
– “I don’t know where or how to start.”
You begin here knowing this: I AM #1
My kid(s) look to me for moral, spiritual, and relational guidance.
1. FAMILY TIME
The great thing about this…this one can be WHATEVER you want it to be!
Amy and I work really hard to protect family time. / This is tough! We are all so busy!
– It won’t happen if you don’t make it happen.
– ALERT: My kids don’t have to be involved in everything!
– We are ALL busy at staying busy.
– Let’s call it what it is: Satan is so good at keeping us all busy!
– Calendar control is key! – – I protect my family time when I control the calendar.
– Have family meetings. We do.
2. DINNER TIME
– The #1 way we connect at home.
– Yes, we are all busy. So, you have to be creative here.
Studies show that families who consistently eat meals together:
- Mom & dad are less likely to get divorced.
- Our kids are less likely to experiment with drugs.
- Our kids are less likely to drop out of school.
- Our kids are less likely to be sexually active.
4 Dinner-time Don’ts:
- No devices at table.
- No TV.
- No answering the phone.
- No leaving the table until you tell us about your day. (My girls love this!)
3. DEVOTIONAL TIME
– I have to work hard to help my kids get it that the bible is the answer to it all!
– Family devotional time begins with my personal devotional time.
– If I am not in the Word, my family probably isn’t either.
– Pray for MY family & LET THEM KNOW I DO!
Family Devotional Time: How do I get started?
– This might be the hardest one: Schedule a time & stick to it.
– Know that I can’t get it wrong! I just have to jump in.
– Consider getting a Devotional Book for your kids…let them choose.
– Consider reading a Proverb each day – – there are 31 chapters in Proverbs…1 a day!
– Have family members take responsibility – take turns leading family devotion night each week.
– Have your kids write down 3 questions they each want answered @ God, bible, eternity, hell, etc.
Spend a few devotional nights answering these questions; look for the answers together
– Always pray together.
– Help your kids get going on their own. Encourage them to have their own personal time w/God.
Use specific Scriptures to tackle cultural challenges!
1. I am unique! – – Genesis 1:27
– “Image” in the Old Testament actually means: “Reflection”
– When God says you are “unique,” this means you’ve been created w/the ability to reflect Him to the world!
2. I am beautiful! – –Ecclesiastes 3:11
– Every child wants to know they are beautiful.
– Just because you say it, doesn’t mean they believe it.
– But keep sharing the truth of scripture with your kids.
– God’s Word will change their perception of themselves over time.
3. I am of great purpose! – – Jeremiah 29:11
– EVERY child wants this promise from God to be successful!
How do my kids get this promise found in Jeremiah 29:11?
– Many know verse Jeremiah 29:11, but not too many know Jeremiah 29:12.
– Jeremiah 29:12 answers the question of “how” do your kids get the promise in Jeremiah 29:11.
– “…call on my & seek me with ALL your heart.”
– 2 key words: “call” & “all”
Know this: It’s my responsibility to help get my kid’s in the Word.
Be creative & remember: Time in the Word is about more than a weekly devotional!
“These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.” – Deuteronomy 6:6-9
Moses has just handed down the 10 Commandments to God’s people.
– He tells the nation of God: “…sit & walk” & “…lie down & get up.”
– This is an Old Testament pattern of opposites.
– It’s an all-consuming way of living…when you are “sitting & walking,” & “lying down” & “getting up.”
– Moses is saying: In ALL aspects of your life – – Get in the Word and get my family in the Word!
Here’s one way to do all of this: 1:1:1 Plan
– 1 Passage
– 1 Day
– 1 Week
– Read the same passage each day for one week. Why the repetition?
– Get God’s Word memorized…IT WILL HELLP YOU NOT SIN!
“How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word. I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands. I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.” – Psalm 119:9-11
As you’ve listened this past month, it could be that you are at the place:
“I’m good. I’m doing all of this.” – – GREAT! Stay the course.
Or, maybe you are thinking:
“I can see some areas that I need to tweak a little…or a lot.” GREAT! Let’s go!
Summary Statement: START WHERE WE ARE! (As a family)
MAKE it my prayer: “God, lead me as I lead my family.”
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